Review of The Unspoken Rules of Love
Guide to Find True Love By Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel Brooks
Aug 25, 2009
The authors of The Unspoken Rules of Love say women often blame men for the collapse of a relationship. However, If they really took a look at themselves, many women would realize they allow their own heart and hormones rather than their head to lead them into a relationship – a huge problem in their search to find true love.
The Unspoken Rules of Love heavily relies on scriptures from the Bible, which has a lot to say about marriage, the definition of a good woman and the best route to find love and fulfillment. The book's 14 detailed rules of love aim to help a woman enter a relationship at the right time – in God’s timing – and ensure the best chances this relationship will last and remain healthy.
14 Rules to Find True Love
- Take Your Life Off of Hold: Don’t let an unmet desire for a man postpone your happiness.
- Remove the Obstacles to Wholeness: Don’t falsely think the right partner can quench your thirst for love.
- Know Your Value: The value you place on yourself has a lot to do with the kind of love you receive.
- Know Who You Are: Don’t attach your value to what you mean to a man but to what you mean to God.
- Know What He Wants: Know what category you fit into – are you a man's “freak,” his “friend” or his “forever?”
- Keep Your Heart in the Right Place: Love God first and limit a man’s accessibility to your heart.
- Recognize the Invisible Man: Don’t let your heart override what your mind sees in a man’s character.
- Know What You Want: Don’t let your longing for love distract you to the point of robbing your joy.
- Be Patient: Be confident that if a man should be yours, he’ll still be there in God’s timing.
- Be Realistic: Realize you cannot change a man after you marry him.
- Separate the Men from the Boys: Maturity doesn’t come with age but with a sense of responsibility.
- Know How to Work it: A man wants a woman whom every other man wants sexually but every man hasn’t had.
- Use Your Power Wisely: Be a help and blessing to a man instead of tearing him down.
- Close the Deal or the Door: Don’t become a man’s wife functionally without being his wife in reality.
Insightful Guide to Find Love and Fulfillment
Michelle McKinney Hammond includes multiple Bible verses and popular Old and New Testament stories to help illustrate each of the 14 rules of love, encouraging readers to delve more into the inspiring truths of the Bible when trying to find true love. The book therefore offers readers the opportunity to develop their own relationship with God as well as their own self-esteem.
Joel A. Brooks Jr. also offers an insightful look for women into the mind of a man – including how to dress to impress, why a woman should stay healthy and the five qualities that should be present in the heart of a man a woman is considering for a mate. This is a unique male point of view often missing from many women’s relationship advice books on how to find true love.
To illustrate the authors’ points, the conversational and first-person text also uses several intriguing personal anecdotes the reader can relate to. The end of each chapter additionally includes personal questions that allow the reader to take a deeper look into their own desires, habits, and intentions when trying to find love and fulfillment. The Unspoken Rules of Love can be effective at helping women find true love as long as they practice the rules of love.
About the Authors
Michelle McKinney Hammond is a successful bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host of Emmy Award-winning "Aspiring Women." Some of her best-selling titles include The Diva Principle, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. To find out more about Michelle and her books, see her website.
Joel A. Brooks Jr. is a nationally known speaker on the topic of singleness, author and the senior pastor of Christian Life Center in Kalamazoo, Mich. He is a contributing author for Dr. Edwin Louis Cole’s book Man Power. He also has served on many local and national boards, including Reconciliation Ministries. For more information about Joel, visit his website.
The Unspoken Rules of Love (Joel A. Brooks Jr. and Michelle McKinney Hammond, Waterbrook Press, ISBN: 1-57856-671-1, 2003)
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